The Bandana Girl!

She wore a blue bandana over her short cropped hair. Her eyes were light colored, green or blue and she had the most beautiful smile I have ever seen.  She was small of stature. The thing that really attracted me to her was her attraction towards me. She Really LOVED me and I her. Then I woke up in my dorm room at Lyndon State College.  I have never seen this girl only in my dreams.  Twenty something years later…My wife decided she didn’t want to be married to me anymore and she hooked up with another man.  I moved into a tiny house down the road from my wife and 3 kids (She was still officially my wife), when I had the dream again… She wore a blue bandana over her short cropped hair. Her eyes were light colored, green or blue and she had the most beautiful smile I have ever seen…I woke up my heart was speeding…She came back…Where is she? Several months later I had another dream but this one was different. She was there but she was older, slightly younger than my age at the time. She did not have a bandana…her hair was short and that beautiful smile was still there…but had slightly more wrinkles. I had moved into another house at the time and my divorce was final.  A couple of days after that dream I had another one but this time a name came to me in my dream…”Heather”.  Was that her name? Was I supposed to look for a woman named Heather? I talked to a good friend about these dreams and about finally getting a name. He reminded me of an old 80ds movie called “Highlander”. A movie were the immortal Highlander,  Connor MacLeod, married and lived with a woman named Heather. He was forever young and she aged but he stayed with her until she passed away of old age. “perhaps the name Heather represents the woman who will be with you for the rest of your life.”  I don’t know but I can always hope that there is such a woman out there for me.  

The family. It has been a long time since I wrote. When I see this picture of my children and myself. I think of dad.  He was such a part in my life. Even after my parents got divorced. It is his example and love for us kids that gives me the strength to fight for my kids...to make sure that I am a part of their lives despite their mother and I not being married any more. That is way this photo is so important to me. It shows that we are a family.